I’ve become a great fan of William Kenower’s book, Fearless Writing. So, I was more than a little interested when he posted a link to a recent interview with Blogger, Kathy Pooler, who has a website called Memoir Writer’s Journey.
I’ve snipped a few paragraphs from that interview, because they illustrate why Bill Kenower’s book is so effective. It’s as much or more about how to live as about how to write. Try this: Read the paragraphs below as if Bill was talking about your life, not about a story you’re writing. E.g “To create you Life, you must… etc.”:
“To write your story you must love it unconditionally.You must love it simply because you love it, be interested in it simply because you’re interested in it. You don’t love it because other people might love it, or because your writing group praised it, or because you think it will get published and bring you lots of money and win you a bunch of awards – you love it simply because it feels good to focus your attention on it. Most people live conditionally. We think about outcomes and about what pleases other people.
“Your portal to your greatest creative potential is your unconditional love of what interests you. Open that door, and what you most want in your life will flow through it.
“Confidence is accepting your inherent self-worth. It is not a product of craft or really even experience, although experience is often what teaches us that we were born worthy of telling any story we want to tell. When you rest in your confidence it will be the most natural thing you can possibly do. At first, it will feel strange and new and maybe thrilling, but that is only because you are used to the discomfort of thinking you are not worthy. Soon you get used to your inherent self-worth, and then people will start saying, ‘You’re so confident!’ and you will think, ‘It’s not actually that big a deal.’
“There is no failure. There’s only lifelong learning to find your inherent fearlessness.”